Maybe the last few times you visited your loved one, things didn't go so well. You carved out plenty of time, you made sure it wouldn't interrupt their routine, you even remembered to bring their favorite treat - but somehow your visit went south...again.
Consider this simple strategy for better visits with better outcomes:
Consider this simple strategy for better visits with better outcomes:
* Start over: A/D affords you the luxury of trying again. Use those lapses in memory to make a fresh start. Try, try, try again!
* Avoid: Verbal triggers such as:
"Now remember... No, you didn't... Don't...Why can't you..."
*Affirm: Reserve using their name and/or title (Mom, Dad, Mr. or Mrs.) for respectful compliments:
"Mom, I really admire how you... Dad, it's remarkable how well you... Mr. So-n-so, you really know how to make me smile..." instead of as a lead in for correction: "Mu-ther, please!" or "Daaaad, Why can't you..." or "Now Mr. X, don't..."
Mindful affirmations can set things in motion for better visits and better outcomes.
Recommended Reading: How to Say it to Seniors, Closing the Communication Gap with Our Elders by: David Solie, MS, PA.
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